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[subjective]

today is the transgender day of remembrance & all i can feel is ambivalent & critical.

i want to recognize the awesome power of seeing a link to the gender.org site on about a third of my friends list today. i don't ever want to take community & allies for granted.

but i want us to think about when transpeople are discussed on days that are not today. and i want us to think about when transpeople are seen & heard, and not just "remembered." i guess i keep coming back to that sticky question: who is the we? who is the we that needs to be reminded to remember that transpeople die violent deaths? who is the we that needs to be "familiarized" with these murders?

i feel like the bad tranny for putting these questions out there, for demanding more of allies i already should be fucking grateful to have. of course i will be at the vigil tonight, to seek some healing from collective mourning, as i have the past two years. but then who is going to remind "us" to remember tomorrow?

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[lizdefiance.livejournal.com]

heya,

i just wanted to write a note to let you know that i added you to my friends list again. i had you on when you were under yr old username, and i just stumbled upon this again tonight. so, hi.

i wish i would have known about the day of rememberence before it was actually here. i guess i've been out of the loop. it was really nice to see at least a dozen mentions of it on my friends list today. i just wish i was more prepared. i know every day can be rememberence day, though.

[subjective.livejournal.com]

hi liz. there's lotsa info up at the gender.org site if you want to organize some sort of educational outreach any day of the year. xo.