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[subjective]

today is the transgender day of remembrance & all i can feel is ambivalent & critical.

i want to recognize the awesome power of seeing a link to the gender.org site on about a third of my friends list today. i don't ever want to take community & allies for granted.

but i want us to think about when transpeople are discussed on days that are not today. and i want us to think about when transpeople are seen & heard, and not just "remembered." i guess i keep coming back to that sticky question: who is the we? who is the we that needs to be reminded to remember that transpeople die violent deaths? who is the we that needs to be "familiarized" with these murders?

i feel like the bad tranny for putting these questions out there, for demanding more of allies i already should be fucking grateful to have. of course i will be at the vigil tonight, to seek some healing from collective mourning, as i have the past two years. but then who is going to remind "us" to remember tomorrow?

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[subjective.livejournal.com]

did you wind up going? the question you ask in the first sentence above is exactly what i was getting at in asking "who is the we?" take care.

Re: indeed.

[srl.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I wound up going; I was across the aisle from you to the left, actually. (The single person with the bike helmet and bags.)

I haven't quite figured out how I felt about the whole thing. I didn't go on the march, because I had to get home (to Arlington by bike)--- but.... uh. It was less depressing than I thought it was going to be, I think. Not sure on that though. I'd be into talking more about it, I just don't know what I have to say.

Re: indeed.

[subjective.livejournal.com]

!! i wish you'd have said hi. i was suffering from shyness all night, but it would've been good to meet you. i've been thinking about it a lot, i definitely had some issues with some stuff. maybe i'll post about it in a day or two, if i can get my thoughts together coherently.

Re: indeed.

[srl.livejournal.com]

Yeah, but it's kinda odd to walk up to someone you only know online and say, "Hi, I'm this person who reads your stuff but we've never actually met." Not wanting to be a freak in person, and all.

Of course, we could do coffee sometime or something. :)